assalamualaikum n hello readers ^_^..I'm Syakirah Afifah,16 :) if u're a judgemental person,than put ur expectations n judgements aside because i have the right to talk about whatever i want here n i know how to keep my attitudes from going beyond the boundaries :P what u read here are not 100%-ly based on the real situation i'm going through. respect my privacy ;) n happy reading! :D
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judge me from my outside,judge me from my attitudes. same ade baik atau buruk mentality awk terhadap saye,saye xkesah,awk tanggunglah 'nanti'. sbb awk xtahu hati saye mcm mane n awk xkan tahu. saye xkate saye baik ke jahat. due2 sy ade. tp sy tahu ape sy buat.
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On my wedding day, I carried my wife in my arms. The bridal car stopped in front of our one-room flat. My buddies insisted that I carry her out of the car in my arms. So I carried her into our home. She was then plump and shy. I was a strong and happy bridegroom.
This was the scene ten years ago.
The following days were as simple as a cup of pure water: we had a kid; I went into business and tried to make more money. When the assets were steadily increasing, the affection between us seemed to ebb. She was a civil servant. Every morning we left home together and got home almost at the same time. Our kid was studying in a boarding school.
Our marriage life seemed to be enviably happy. But the calm life was more likely to be affected by unpredictable changes.
Dew came into my life.
It was a sunny day. I stood on a spacious balcony. Dew hugged me from behind. My heart once again was immersed in her stream of love. This was the apartment I bought for her. Dew said, you are the kind of man who best draws girls’ eyeballs. Her words suddenly reminded me of my wife.
When we were just married, my wife said, Men like you, once successful, will be very attractive to girls.
Thinking of this, I became somewhat hesitant. I knew I had betrayed my wife. But I couldn’t help doing so.
I moved Dew’s hands aside and said you go to select some furniture, O.K.? I’ve got something to do in the company.
Obviously she was unhappy, because I had promised to do it together with her. At the moment, the idea of divorce became clearer in my mind although it used to be something impossible to me.
However, I found it rather difficult to tell my wife about it. No matter how mildly I mentioned it to her, she would be deeply hurt.
Honestly, she was a good wife. Every evening she was busy preparing dinner. I was sitting in front of the TV. The dinner was ready soon. Then we watched TV together. Or, I was lounging before the computer, visualizing Dew’s body. This was the means of my entertainment.
One day I said to her in a slightly joking way, suppose we divorce, what will you do? She stared at me for a few seconds without a word. Apparently she believed that divorce was something too far away from her. I couldn’t imagine how she would react once she got to know I was serious.
When my wife went to my office, Dew had just stepped out. Almost all the staff looked at my wife with a sympathetic eye and tried to hide something while talking to her. She seemed to have got some hint. She gently smiled at my subordinates. But I read some hurt in her eyes.
Once again, Dew said to me, He Ning, divorce her, O.K.? Then we live together. I nodded. I knew I could not hesitate any more.
When my wife served the last dish, I held her hand. I’ve got something to tell you, I said. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the serious topic calmly.
She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I’m serious. I avoided her question. This so-called answer made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!
That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer, because my heart had gone to Dew.
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. I felt a pain in my heart. The woman who had been living ten years with me would become a stranger one day. But I could not take back what I had said.
Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer.
Late that night, I came back home after entertaining my clients. I saw her writing something at the table. I fall asleep fast. When I woke up, I found she was still there. I turned over and was asleep again.
She brought up her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but I was supposed to give her one month s time before divorce, and in the month’s time we must live as normal a life as possible. Her reason was simple: our son would finish his summer vacation a month later and she didn’t want him to see our marriage was broken.
She passed me the agreement she drafted, and then asked me, He Ning, do you still remember how I entered our bridal room on the wedding day? This question suddenly brought back all those wonderful memories to me. I nodded and said, I remember. You carried me in your arms, she continued, so, I have a requirement, that is, you carry me out in your arms on the day when we divorce. From now to the end of this month, you must carry me out from the bedroom to the door every morning. I accepted with a smile. I knew she missed those sweet days and wished to end her marriage romantically.
I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she does, she has to face the result of divorce, she said scornfully. Her words more or less made me feel uncomfortable.
My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. We even treated each other as a stranger. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms.
His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly, Let us start from today, don’t tell our son. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for a bus, I drove to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. We were so close that I could smell the fragrance of her blouse.
I realized that I hadn’t looked at this intimate woman carefully for a long time. I found she was not young any more. There were some fine wrinkles on her face.
On the third day, she whispered to me, the outside garden is being demolished. Be careful when you pass there.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I seemed to feel that we were still an intimate couple and I was holding my sweetheart in my arms. The visualization of Dew became vague.
On the fifth and sixth day, she kept reminding me something, such as, where she put the ironed shirts, I should be careful while cooking, etc. I nodded. The sense of intimacy was even stronger. I didn’t tell Dew about this.
I felt it was easier to carry her. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. I said to her, It seems not difficult to carry you now. She was picking her dresses. I was waiting to carry her out. She tried quite a few but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I smiled. But I suddenly realized that it was because she was thinner that I could carry her more easily, not because I was stronger. I knew she had buried all the bitterness in her heart. Again, I felt a sense of pain. Subconsciously I reached out a hand to touch her head.
Our son came in at the moment. Dad, it’s time to carry mum out. He said. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had been an essential part of his life. She gestured our son to come closer and hugged him tightly.
I turned my face because I was afraid I would change my mind at the last minute. I held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly, as if we came back to our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad.
On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step.
Our son had gone to school. She said, actually I hope you will hold me in your arms until we are old.
I held her tightly and said, both you and I didn’t notice that our life lacked intimacy.
I jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my decision. I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door. I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I won’t divorce. I’m serious.
She looked at me, astonished. The she touched my forehead. You got no fever. She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I can only say sorry to you, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of life, not because we didn’t love each other any more. Now I understand that since I carried her into the home, she gave birth to our child, I am supposed to hold her until I am old. So I have to say sorry to you.
Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove to the office.
When I passed the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet for my wife which was her favorite. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until we are old”.
That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in bed – DEAD. She had been fighting Cancer for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce. At least, in the eyes of our son… I’m a loving husband…
Let’s get the super important stuff out on the table first.
You might be wondering – you think that u have been good enough but why you will never be able to get every person you ever come in touch with to like you? "If I am a good, kind, positive and giving person – why wouldn’t everyone like me? Why wouldn’t they see the beauty in me?"
Well…there’s lots of reasons and most of them you will need to come to peace with never actually knowing.
We just cannot know why – unless of course we chase for the answer. But conversations that have a beginning in ‘Why don’t you like me?’ or ‘Why won’t you respond to me?’ so often, I find, don’t have a happy ending.
So what’s the answer when we truly believe we are worth someone connecting with us, liking us, loving us – and it just doesn’t happen?
Move on.
Don’t contort, manipulate, stretch and turn yourself inside out. Don’t turn on yourself and think there must be something ‘wrong’ with you. Don’t waste any of your precious time and life on something you can’t control.
Yes. Control.
Because while we all may want someone’s approval, or friendship, or respect, or love – we genuinely have no control over whether or not someone chooses to give it to us. It’s a choice. Their choice. Someone else’s choice. It’s never our choice. Our decision to make. Our love to give.
All you, we and me can do is be our truest and most good,best and genuine self. The people who are then meant to come to us and be with us and like us will be. Those who are not will not.
Focus all your love and attention on those people who are your people. Those who easily flow and connect with you and everything you are. Those with whom you can utterly be yourself – all the time.
Let go of those people who are not your people. i mean,those for whatever reason, entirely out of your control, who move towards others. Let them go with love.
And know that more beautiful and amazing people are out there waiting for you to show up into their lives. Always.
There’s always more love for innerly beautiful and amazing people like you.
Wahai lelaki yang bakal memimpin gadis yang namanya tercatat di Luh Mahfuz untukmu
Wahai lelaki yang bakal memimpin gadis yang namanya telah tercatat di Luh Mahfuz untukmu...
janganlah kamu terlalu idamkan dia sepertimana ciri2 idamanmu dan mengharapkan dia mampu mengabulkan mimpi-mimpi indahmu.
jadilah seorang insan yang tidak mengharapkan kesempurnaan tetapi tanamlah dalam diri kamu sendiri keinginan untuk menjadi yang terbaik buat pasanganmu itu.
janganlah kamu kecewa jika dia hanya gadis biasa yang tidak semahal kamu impikan kerana kekurangan atau perbuatan mase lalunya mahupun kininya.
ingatlah,tanggungjawab dan amanah yang sepatutnya kamu pegang dan sedari sbagai lelaki yang memegang amanah untuk menjaga dia yang berjanji untuk menjadi tulang belakangmu nanti
biarpun dia tidak dapat mewujudkan mimpi-mimpi indahmu,janganlah kamu bersedih kerana sungguh aku tahu bukan niatnya untuk membuatmu hampa. dia hanya gadis biasa yang banyak berbuat silap dan mengharapkanmu untuk membimbingnya dan memberinya kekuatan.
jika benar kamu seorang pemimpin,berusahalah mencantikkan apa yang masih kurang.
sabarlah dgn amanahmu yg besar lagi berat,wahai pria bakal pemimpin ummah.
kerana sungguh jihad itu pedih lagi menyakitkan.
namun inshaAllah,pengakhirannya manis jika kamu berdua tahu tanggungjawab dan impian sebenar.
oleh itu,janganlah kecantikan paras dan akhlak yang kamu terlalu harapkan.
kerana sejujurnya dia takut dgn harapan tinggimu terhadapnya kerana dia tahu dia sebenarnye penuh dengan cacat cela.
pernahkah kamu sedar akan hatinya yang resah memikirkan bahawa mampukah dia menjadi yang terbaik untukmu dan bagaimana penerimaanmu terhadap segala kekurangannya
tiada henti dia berdoa agar Allah memberinye kekuatan dan memberimu kesabaran agar dia mampu menjadi yang lebih baik untukmu sehari demi sehari kerana dia tidak mahu melihatmu sedih malah mengharapkan suatu hari nnt kamu bahagia dan bangga mempunyai insan sepertinya sebagai peneman hidupmu.
apa yang dia harapkan ialah kepimpinan dan kasih sayangmu dlm membimbingnya dan keluarga dgn lembut dan buktikanlah bahawa kamu mampu menjadikan pasanganmu itu seorang insan yang cukup mahal dan indah setelah dia menjadi milikmu.
jadikanlah dia wanita yang dicemburui oleh bidadari-bidadari lain di Syurga nanti kerana keberkesananmu memimpinnya setelah dia bergelar milikmu.
inilah isi hati sebenar mana2 gadis yang namanya telah tercatat di Luh Mahfuz untukmu. sungguh diri kami bersembunyikan 1001 kekurangan dan kelemahan.bukan kesempurnaanmu yang kami harapkan darimu. kami tahu dirimu juga penuh kekurangan. cukuplah kamu cuba mnjadi pemimpin yg baik buat kami dan keluarga yang tahu tanggungjawab dan cuba menggalasnya dgn sebaik mungkin. kita dua hati yang berbeza. kami juga berharap dpt mnjd yg trbaik utkmu. namun jgnlh mimpi-mimpimu memberi beban yg tidak tertanggung kepada kami. jadilah kekuatan kami dan buktikanlah kepimpinan dan cintamu dalam pada kita sama2 mengejar cintaNya dn mencipta kebahagiaan di dunia dan di akhirat sane,inshaAllah ameen.
assalamualaikum
heh da lebih stengah tahun xbebel kt sini. ade je ase nk nulis tp malas nk naip. jadi simpan lam otak jela heh.
so now,meh nk bebel skali. cuti ni ade a mase nk luang kt blog ni hah. start skolah nnt malas layan balik. hoho. nasib a dpt tuan kurg penyayang cani ye blog ye :). n mama pon da cakap nak hadkan penggunaan. hari minggu xleh gune. yes! syakirah kne disiplinkan diri balik! padan muke :P k dah,benti bebel. let's begin the story! org len pindah sekolah xde cite pape kan? haa meh sini nak cite!
>8/2/2012<
from a shamsians to an imtiazians
from 4 ar-razi to 4 ibnu kathir
from kuala terengganu to kuala berang
from bandor to ulu
from wearing a blue long skirt into a red one (k tipu. mase tu xbli pon agi kain baru. hiihi)
yes,i had transferred to a new school,imtiaz kuala berang :)
actually mase g temuduge tu x expect pon dpt sini. first choice besut coz my sis ade kat sane. second kospint coz paling dkt n ade abg ipar kt sane. third,dungun(ni pon kalau dh xdpt due tuh). siyes langsung xexpect dpt qber.
at first,mase sampai skul tu of coursela tgok skeliling kan. mmg trkejut gile. "eh mane bangunannye? xkan sutey ni je?" then mama told me,"mmg ni satu pon bangunan pendidikannye" n i was like.."0_0 hah?????????!!!!!!!!". "student skolah ni kan sikit je". "ow..=_= ok".
die panggil 10 org budak baru,tp yg masuk hari tu 5 org je. me,hayani,afiq,azizol n aidil. lega la jgk bile ade kwn kan yani kan? :)
ok,kite pendekkan cite. rasa risau tambah perasaan xtentu datang bile yani seems like nk kuar sgt dr imtiaz nih. die buat solat istikharah,die nmpk KAKA. mase tu mmg da start ase xsedap hati. gile xsedap a. she often called her mom. ummi(pengetua shams) pon bg sy tempoh 2minggu utk suaikan diri kt situ,kalau xnk boleh balik sane balik. tp ntah,hati ase nk kuat stay kt situ lg. one day,azizol hilang tibe2. ok,cm xlogik je ayat hilang tu =_=". azizol pindah mengejut. heish bdk nih. sukati die je lari balik g pahang =_=" afiq yg rapat ngan azizol pon cm moody je hari tu. taw2 ptg tu die plk pindah balik ke sma durian guling. n the next day,hati yg xtenang jadi perit giler. bile taw yani plak dpt pindah. mase tu ase malap a. sedih a sape xderai air mate the only friend u had at that time pegi kan. prasaan nk pindah balik ke tidak pon campor baur. mama n papa datang ptg tu tanye cane kputusan. tinggal esok sari je. mama pujuk balik. but my last answer is...i wanna stay.
bermula saat tu mmg i hope for a no turning back la. bermula dari situ jugak bermula la hidup as an imtiazian yg betol2 la. ye,ini bukan main2 lagi tahu. haih kalu nk dicitekan mahu 10 pages blog nih pon xtamat-tamat lagi hah. meh nk cite sikit2. *sikit pn panjang jugak T_T. papepon,thanks buat guru2 yg bagi sy pluang masuk pertandingan forum,pantun. owh lupe, mase duk sini sya jd bomba! :D hohoho ^.^ mengabulkan impian mase kecik :') *gile panas uniform die T__T. hah ape lagi ek,erkk...xingat. hihi. jadi utk memendekkan lg,kite buat ucapan penghargaan jelah ye. hoho ^.^
>usrah aflah hasanah<
saye sayang usrah ni ^_^ actually sampai skrg ase bersalah cos sbenarnye mmg ase diri ni xlayak nk pimpin adik2. diri sendiri pon tah hape2. dear adik2 usrahku,maaf kalau akak ade tersilap bicare ke ape ke k :) betol diri akak ni pon sangattttla xsempurne. tgok fb pon tahu hah. n i'm very asshame of myself T__T akak harap korang jadikanlh diri korang insan yg lebih baik. jadilah contoh yg terbaik buat adik2 korg nnt n generasi akan datang *ecewah ayat. hoho. ehem siyes2. hehe. n n n......akak saaaaaayang korang! thanks for the happiness strength you had given me n everything la. korg mmg terbaekkkk! :D jgn brubah ye dik :) n utk rakan2 usrah,even though kite xlame n xbyk aktiviti kite sempat buat,tp rase syg sy kt usrah ni mmg kuat. ntah la knape,hihi. n time kasih atas ukhuwah nih,ainun,hanan,nasyitah,ain,afiqah n lain2. i appreciate it so much. btol. xtipu pon :') teruskan perjuangan korg. biarla kite xmampu pupuk sekuat yg diharapkan asalkan kita cuba. jangan sampai semua ni padam. jadilah teladan buat yg melihat. korg la antare harapan utk mantapkan lagi bi'ah Islam kt skolah tu. don't ever give up. biarla ape org len nk kate,org buat xendah,pegang kuat niat tarbiyah. ingat,sesungguhnya perjuangan itu jihad! :)
>KAMAR UMMI AIMAN<
my second home. haha. byk memori kt sini. dah mmg sehari-hari duk lam tu kan. n also my first dorm ever! sbelom nih den x pornah2 pon duk asrama jang oii. i shared a bed with aini :P die gedik. die ngade. die manje. die menyakitkan hati. die kedekut gile. tapi die baik ^_^ n sy syg die*kot. ngeh3. sbelom pegi tu sy ade acah die pasal sy ade nmpk bdk baru dah mai dh kt pejabat. form2 dr imtiaz kemaman xsilap. so sy ckp la "hehe nnt dpt bdk baru atas katil ^_^ padan muke wekkk! :P" n die pon berkate "uhh xboh. xboh wi. duk a kat lain. dokdak a ade org len bla3" n i was like..oww da slame ni ambe ni kire penyebok laa? kuang asams punye budak! =_=" okk,kitorg mmg suke gurau. die form 2 but she's even matured than me. aini tua! :P kui3 ^.^ mase malam rabu seblom sy pindah,adela makan2 roti canai ramai2 banat form4 lam dorm ni hah. roti canai piqah. emg tersedakkk a! eh skill baru? hehe. thanks a lot sume ^_^. owh,kamar ini dikongsi oleh bdk form 4 and form2 *heh mcm org len xtaw. den sobonarnyo xdo ideodah nak nulih ni haa. dah nak doket pukol tigo pagi dah eyh. adoiii. sambung besok. tata!
>to Aliah n Ezaty<
olla! gud monink! ^_^ meh nk sambung cite. this one i dedicate to this two girls. they are new too. aliah dr imtiaz besut,ezaty dr imtiaz kemaman. emm sy harap awk due kuat. be strong. sy faham perasaan awk tu. n maybe awk lg perit lg kot. sbb bkn ur desire pon nk pindah skul baru kan. sy tahu rindu kt skolah n kwn2 lame mmg menghantui. lg2 bile sad moments datang kan. i know how hard it is to face the fact that there are some persons who can never accept us. sape xmiss happiness yg kite achieve kt skola lame kan. yg mungkin kite xkan dpt da kt cni sampai bile2. byk agi tapi org xfaham. mungkin bukan fakta pindah tu yg buat kite sakit. tp fakta lain yg hanye kite sorg je tahu sakitnye. i had seen both of u cry,i also had heard ur both's stories. i wish i could help but i know i cant,i'm so sorry. hanye awk yg boleh tolong diri awk. n to aliah,be strong dear! sy respek gile kt awk sbb awk kuat. tp manusie ade limit die. ramai org xnmpk kebaikan awk n mcm mane awk nk sgt suit dgn org sini. satu je sy bleh cakap,bersabarlah selagi mampu :') Allah tahu kesedihan yg hambaNya lalui and remember,innAllahama'assobirin :)
>bieeeeee~! :D<
hah amek. i buat yg small size punye,you~ hoho. thanks for everything dear :') bie kwn bru sy yg kedue selepas yani. she treat me nicely n give me a very warm welcome. diela antare yg terawal tego kitorg kot. kitorg pon jd senang nk talk2 ngan die. lps yani pindah pon diela yg byk care pasal sy. prnh tu kitorg kacip pergi sane,sini same. hoho. bie slalu kongsi cite ngan sy,sy pon kongsi gak cite sy ngan bie yg mne mostly sad stories. olololo. she's a very nice n preety girl :) bie jgk bg byk pluang kt sy utk masuk ini itu n mcm2 la. hehe thanks syg ^_^ i will never forget all that. u have become apart of my life :D u give me the sweetness of friendship n a lot more,dear buddies!
>afiqah! :D<
mase akhir2 tu sy jd rapat dgn afiqah jgk :D ai punye lame duk katil sbelah,lately baru nk rapat? ai x ke pelik tuh. heh biarla. best kwn ngan die. hihi. actually...sya jeles ngan die T_T. eh jeles? ha'a jeles lah. but in a good way ok :P sy jeles sbb tgok keperibadian die. mmg tabik springgg a! die byk sedarkan sy,ajar sy muhasabah diri,kuatkan diri,kuatkan iman n paling sy xleyh lupe,die ajar sy utk...jage hati. mmg ade ase nak nangis je time ckp ngan die mase tu. heh mmg da berkace da pon mate T.T. die sedarkan sya baik,buruk ape yg sya cite kat die n bla3. heh mane boleh cakap pasal ape. rahsieeee..ngeee~ thanks a lot piqah! byk awk ajar n sedarkan sy kan :') which makes me loves u so damn much! <3 ^_^
>zahirah <3 <
that cute spectacled girl is my deskmate ^_^. die terror add math dgn bahase arab wooo!! die baaaaik sangat! :D zahirah ni die sgt sweet la i think. die sorg yg lebih mementingkan org lain dr diri sendiri. very good a this girl. die xsuke sakitkan hati org wlpn kdg2 die sndiri yg sakit. die jgk sgt suke tolong org lain n bla3. sape dpt die mmg a very lucky one a. meh nk ucap tahniah awal2. huhu. n n n die ketua baru dorm ummi aiman!! :D haha >_< mmg die je pon yg layak nk ganti banding kitorg yg len. erkkk...hehe. harap awk dpt galas tugas ni sebaik mungkin,z :) haa! die seorg yg suke mendengar. die mmg a very good listener. die suke selesaikan masalah org tp masalah sendiri die lebih suke pendam. haiyaaaa =_=" papepon z,thanks sbb byk tolong sy,byk layan kerenah saye n lain2. u're such a really nice person! :') syg awk jgk ^_^. n thanks for the gift you had given me and not forgotten the tazkirah too <3
>24/3/12<
after 3 months and a half,i'd decided to go. the reason? xde yg taw sbb tepat kan? xpela,bia sy sorg je tahu :) actually takot jgk sbb menyusahkan mak,ayah. mmg menyusahkan sgt la. so yg len,jgn ikot. duk situ diam2! :P hoho. thanks atas segale-galenye n sorry if ade salah silap. manusia xde yg sempurne kan? to all those yg ade buat silap pon sy dh maafkan. sy xsuke simpan dendam. i even have forgot what have u done.
malas nk take serious pon so salah silap sesape so salah silap sy jgn la amek sampai ke hati k. sorry jugak kala sy nampak mcm sombong ke hape ke. maybe muke sy mcm tu kot. tp sy actually sy xsombong pon sy rase. ke sombong? ade la ikit kot. buat2 sombong je tu. hehe. don't worry,tego je kt fb tu hah. saye ok :) n thanks jugak buat sume yg give me a lot of memory same ade sedar atau x n sengaje atau x,yg buat sy hepi,gembire*eh xke same tu? hehe pape jela. owh sorry kalau sy xmention ur name here. haih ramai benor la kalau nk sebot sorg2nye =_="
so fine,setiap pertemuan tu ade suke duke gembire dan sakit die. n setiap pertemuan tu jgk pasti ade perpisahan. so,that day tamatlah riwayatku as an imtiazian. sy syg skolah tu. skolah tu byk ajar sy. byk yg sampai sy sendiri pon xsedar. lpn sy sekejap je kat sini,sy xkan lupekan skolah tu sampai bile2 n kwn2 kt situ jgk :) skali lagi,tuk semue yg terlibat secare langsong atau tidak lam hidup sy kat situ,sy ucapkan,tenkiu!!! ^_^
hey! take this song! :D *xtaw da bg lagu ape. amek jela heh :)
jadi utk mengakhiri post kali ni,let me share here tazkirah yg zahirah bg :)
dirimu terhias sebaik-baik ciptaan
maka jadikanlah dirimu nisa' yg boleh mnjd mujahidah jihad di jalan Allah
tadikanlah dirimu antara fatayat yg dijulang
cantik dipandang tp susah utk dipegang
jadikanlah dirimu gadis manis yg xprnah kalah dgn redup panahan mata Adam
biar nafsumu hidup dlm tarbiyah di jalan dakwah
bertinta darah dan air mata perjuangan
dititip atas warkah penuh kemuliaan
dan dikirimkan utk mujahidah menuju Tuhanmu
nice one,right? :') thanks a lot dear zahirah<3 ^_^
assalamaualaikum wbt
dikale otak kosong xtaw nk tulis pe
datangla sorg semek bername fatin mengetag I di blognye. weeee~~~ ^_^
n n n she's one of my bestfriends :)
n n n she's a fanatic kpop lover! woaaaa!!! :D
n n n i love her! ^_^ haha.
kamsahamnida unnie! ;) (bajet pandai ckp korea)
so now,on your mark,get set,go! :D
1.how do u express ur own feelings? through ur action? writing or talking?
-semua!! :D tapi action tu kurang skit. hihi. talking? share dgn kawan la kan :) tak pon ckp straight to the point dgn org tu. writing? i do have a diary tp....da mcm buku conteng dah =_=" hehe. tp bile rase nak luah sgt10000,mmg diary la tempatnye. tulis sampai nangis. pastu lege sikit. lame2 lupekan. huhu. kt blog xleh. private :P
2.singing or dancing or poeing? y?
-singing n poeing :) howaaa syakirah pandai buat poems wehhh!!! ape? ingat hang sorg ja boleh? poooodah! wekkk :P haha
3.who are ur closer siblings? big bro or lil bro? big sis or lil sis?
-erkk i only have a big bro n big sisS =_=" so big sisS la(xleh pilih) ^_^ huhu~
4-do u prefer to work alone or in a group? y?
-alone :) because i can give full attention to what i'm working for like study. but i also prefer to work in a group when it comes to something like competition or a group test :)
5-what kind of person r u?
-erm...erm...erm...someone who will react differently to different people haha ^_^
6-what's the most important gadget in human's life n y?
-emm...handphone? erkk teehihi...kenapela soalan mcm ni ditanyekn kpd insan yg jakun seperti diriku ini? T______T sobs.
7-when u r bored,sad or angry,what would you do to erase them?
-bored? buat jela pape pon. haha. sad or angry? kalau boleh luah,luah la. kalau x,buat dono je. haha. i don't wanna stuck at a time thinking about all those dramas. drpd duk bersakit mental pikir hal tu tanpe dpt ape2 pun cume kesedihan,takde faedah kot. actually perkara mcm tu byk mengajar kite sebenarnye. bagitaw diri utk tak mengulangi kesalahan yg sama lagi n berazam utk mnjd yg lebih baik pd mase akan datang. we learn from what we have gone through kan? :)
8-what characters that you adore about him to make him yours forever?(ideal man)
-jap2...kahkahkahkahkah!!! haha k,dah2..huu~ ^_^ emm Iman,leadership n craziness :D haha.accept each other's unperfections because we have each other to make them perfect :) eh jap...oit!! org baru 15 lah!!! =_="
9-if u're giving a chance to do something freely,what would u do?
-agagagaga...travelling all around the world with my friends!! :D weeeee~ dak r,dak r ^_^ *bajet kaye mcm bill gates =_="*
10-craziest experience that u will never forget.
-craziest experience? none :)
11-u prefer wooden house or conchrete one? n y?
-conchrete house. emm..for saftey n comfort? i think :)
ok siap tag dr fatin. thank you so much for the tag,dear :) saranghaeyo~ ^_^
assalamualaikum wbt.
assalamualaikum wbt :)
hari ni syakirah akan buat 3 criter! ^_^ wahhhh 3 criter? bestnyer!!! :D (kesiannn puji diri sendiri T__T)
tapi ini bukan novel cinta :)
tapi asal ade kait gak ngan cinta? =,=
yelah,tapi ini bukan crite NOVEL
bkn angan2 indah atau tragis atau romantik atau melankolik bla3 seorang penulis novel
ade faham? :D
xfaham sudah! =,= haha
ok tapi yg first ni not from me. yg ni a post yg dishare di facebook by a popular writer,novelist and motivator HILAL ASYRAf
thumbs up! :') up,up and away~~~ haha
Couple=cinta? Saya kata tidak.
Bicara cinta kita kali ini. Sebab baru timbul di Official Page saya soalan berkenaan ‘apakah ada couple sebelum berkahwin?’. Saya jawab lah tak ada. Kemudian dia tanya ‘apakah ada cinta sebelum berkahwin?’. Saya kata ada. Dia pelik. “Macam mana bercinta tapi tak bercouple?”
Saya pula naik hairan. Cinta dengan couple tu, sama ke? Nak bercinta, wajib couple ke? Kiranya, kalau tak couple tu, tandanya tak ada cinta la? Begitu kah?
Patutlah bila saya kata bercinta sebelum kahwin boleh, orang ramai marah sebab dia kata: “No cinta b4 nikah” la, “Cinta sebelum nikah haram” la dan sebagainya. Sebab apa? Dia nampak cinta=couple dan sewaktu dengannya.
Saya nampak couple tu jauh letaknya di barat, dan cinta tu letaknya jauh di bahagian timur. Dua benda yang berlainan. Cinta boleh dijalankan tanpa couple. Couple pun, kalau orang nak, boleh jalan tanpa cinta.
Apa itu cinta
Saya tak ambil definisi cinta ini dari kamus dewan bahasa atau mana-mana sumber. Saya bina definisi cinta saya sendiri, dari kefahaman dan padangaan yang saya perhatikan selama ini.
Definisi cinta saya mudah. Apa itu cinta? Cinta adalah apabila kita hendak masuk syurga bersama-sama dengan orang yang kita kata pada dia – Saya cintakan awak. Benda ni boleh apply dengan semua jenis orang. Kekasih kah, isteri kah, anak-anak kah, ibu-bapa kah, adik-beradik kah, sahabat handai, saudara mara, jiran tetangga, dan sebagainya. Semua la pendek kata.
Jadi, kalau kita melakukan sesuatu yang mengeluarkan kita dari jalan ke syurga Allah SWT, itu tandanya telah hilang cinta kita kepada orang yang kita kata - saya cintakan awak.
Cinta, terkandung di dalamnya makna sayang dan kasih. Jadi saya tidak nampak seseorang yang melempar seseorang yang lain ke dalam api, atau bawa orang lain terjun ke gaung bersama dengannya itu, adalah seorang Pencinta, seorang Penyayang atau seorag Pengasih.
Jadi, kalau couple itu dilarang oleh Allah SWT, zina hati itu dilarang oleh Allah SWT, dan kosnya adalah kemurkaan Allah SWT, boleh mengheret ke neraka Allah SWT, apakah si pengajak kepada perlakuan itu, atau si pelaku kepada perlakuan itu, dinamakan saling kasih mengasihi, sayang menyayangi dan cinta mencintai?
Lempar ke dalam api dikatakan sayang? Ah... kalau anda berpendapat demikian, tak mengapalah.
Yang saya kata bercinta sebelum kahwin
Cinta itu perasaan. Kita sebenarnya tidak tahu bagaimana cinta itu boleh muncul. Lain orang lain cara kemunculannya. Ada yang terjumpa sekali dah ‘tercinta’. Ada yang sebab kerja sama-sama, ‘tercinta’. Ada yang sebab dengar dari kawan-kawan si fulan/si fulanah itu baik, maka ‘jatuh cinta’ dan sebagainya.
Pendek kata, jatuh cinta ini bukan boleh kawal. Jadi, macam mana kita boleh letakkan hukum haram kepada sesuatu yang bersifat ‘auto’? Atau bahasanya yang sebenar adalah ‘fitrah’.
Islam haramkan seks kah? Tidak. Sebab? Sebab seks adalah fitrah.
Islam haramkan kita makan dan minumkah? Tidak. Sebab? Sebab makan minum adalah fitrah.
Tetapi apa yang Islam buat? Yang Islam buat adalah Islam lorongkan semua benda itu. Seks adalah dengan perkahwinan. Makan minum adalah makan minum yang halal.
Cinta? Saya tidak pernah dengar lagi dalam nas Al-Quran atau Hadith sohih yang menyatakan perasaan cinta itu perlu ada hanya sebelum kahwin. Kalau ada, sila tunjuk pada saya. Saya mahu belajar.
Maka apa yang saya maksudkan dengan ‘bercinta sebelum kahwin’ adalah, usaha-usaha kita untuk berkahwin dengan seseorang itu, itu adalah namanya ‘cinta sebelum kahwin’. Saya bukan kata email, sms, call, dating, couple, itu adalah ‘bercinta sebelum kahwin’. Tidak dan tidak sama sekali.
Tetapi, kita kembali kepada definisi cinta yang saya nyatakan.
Hendak masuk syurga bersamanya.
Maka, bercinta sebelum berkahwin dengannya adalah dengan kita mempertingkatkan diri sebelum menerjah ke alam perkahwinan. Itu bercintalah.
Apakah dengan itu ‘haram berhubung langsung’?
Tidak. Bila sudah bertunang, sudah mendapat pengiktirafan ibu bapa, maka berhubunglah dengan sepatutnya. Ta’aruf. Ziarah. Bincang fasal perkahwinan. Merancang. Dan sebagainya. Dan semestinya semua itu, perlu kepada pemerhatian keluarga atau penjaga. Sebab itu, digalakkan waktu pertunangan itu pendek-pendek sahaja, agar tidak berpanjangan pula perkara-perkara yang diberikan kelonggaran ini, dan tidak terlalu teruji pula perhubungan tersebut. ^^
Untuk saya, itulah namanya ‘bercinta sebelum berkahwin’.
Siapa kata tiada? ^^
Mazhab Tawakkal Buta Dalam Cinta.
“Kalau kita sukakan seseorang, jangan beritahu si dia. Nanti Allah kurangkan rasa cinta padanya. Tapi luahkan pada Allah, beritahulah Allah. Allah maha tahu jodoh kita siapa.”
Pernah dengar ayat macam ini?
Ini saya namakan sebagai Mazhab Tawakkal Buta Dalam Cinta.
Kenapa saya namakan tawakkal buta? Sebab saya tahu Allah pun tak ajar demikian rupa. ^^
Kalau suka, patutnya bagitahulah(semestinya dengan persediaan. Bukan main bagitahu sahaja. Tengoklah diri tu juga. Kalau main bagitahu sahaja, itu dah masuk dalam bab Cinta Buta). Kemudian, siapa la pandai-pandai ajar kalau bagitahu nanti Allah kurangkan rasa cinta padanya ni?
Baiklah. Saya bagi contoh buka laci. Macam mana anda mahu buka laci? Anda berdoa sahaja, atau anda usaha buka laci sambil tawakkal bahawa Allahlah yang bantu anda buka laci itu?
Satu lagi. Exam. Macam mana kita mahu cemerlang dalam exam? Berdoa sahaja, luahkan pada Allah bahawa kita tak pandai sahaja, atau kita kena belajar sungguh-sungguh, dan masa exam kena gerakkan otak dan pen untuk jawab exam? Mana satu?
USAHA.
Usaha kena ada. Itu sunnatullah. Maka bagaimana di dalam CINTA kita boleh kata:
“Kalau kita sukakan seseorang, jangan beritahu si dia. Nanti Allah kurangkan rasa cinta padanya. Tapi luahkan pada Allah, beritahulah Allah. Allah maha tahu jodoh kita siapa.”??????
Kalau macam itu, saya pun boleh kata, janganlah study. Doa sahaja pada Allah. Allah Maha Tahu Kita Cemerlang Atau Tidak. Bagaimana? Suka?
Jadi janganlah ambil Mazhab Tawakkal Buta ini. Baik dalam exam, mahupun dalam BERCINTA.
Kalau suka, bincanglah dengan ibu bapa. Cakap kat ibu bapa, saya suka si fulan, saya suka si fulanah. Preparekanlah diri. Buatlah background check. Kemudian muhasabah kembali ibadah. Kemudian kalau berkeyakinan, sila masuk melamar. Merisik. Dan sebagainya.
At least kita pun tahu kalau dia tak suka kita, tak berkenan dengan kita. Boleh cari yang lain.
Kalau pendam sahaja buat apa?
Silap hari bulan dia suka kat kita, sebab main pendam, terlepas.
Silap hari bulan dia tak suka kat kita, sebab main pendam, tup-tup dah lama sangat pendam perasaan, syok sangat-sangat, sekali kena tolak. Kecewa. Bertahun dah bazirkan hidup suka dia.
Sebab itu, usaha itu kena ada. Langkah itu perlu diambil.
Tawakkal Buta?
Jangan sekali.
Penutup: Terang lagi bersuluh, couple dengan cinta tak sama
Saya sentiasa kata pada diri saya, cinta itu mahal, suci, bersih. Jadi, takkan saya nak nodai dengan perkara-perkara yang mengotorkannya(kemurkaan Allah)? Di situ sahaja kita sudah boleh buat garisan membezakan cinta dan couple.
Jadi, tak ada masalah ya kalau bercinta tanpa couple. Masih cinta. Bersih pula.
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jadi umat Rasulullah yg baik
jadi anak yg baik
jadi adik/kakak yg baik
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jadi bakal isteri n ibu yg baik n dpt suami yg sgt2 baik :D hahaha >_< k,just kidding :)
On my wedding day, I carried my wife in my arms. The bridal car stopped in front of our one-room flat. My buddies insisted that I carry her out of the car in my arms. So I carried her into our home. She was then plump and shy. I was a strong and happy bridegroom.
This was the scene ten years ago.
The following days were as simple as a cup of pure water: we had a kid; I went into business and tried to make more money. When the assets were steadily increasing, the affection between us seemed to ebb. She was a civil servant. Every morning we left home together and got home almost at the same time. Our kid was studying in a boarding school.
Our marriage life seemed to be enviably happy. But the calm life was more likely to be affected by unpredictable changes.
Dew came into my life.
It was a sunny day. I stood on a spacious balcony. Dew hugged me from behind. My heart once again was immersed in her stream of love. This was the apartment I bought for her. Dew said, you are the kind of man who best draws girls’ eyeballs. Her words suddenly reminded me of my wife.
When we were just married, my wife said, Men like you, once successful, will be very attractive to girls.
Thinking of this, I became somewhat hesitant. I knew I had betrayed my wife. But I couldn’t help doing so.
I moved Dew’s hands aside and said you go to select some furniture, O.K.? I’ve got something to do in the company.
Obviously she was unhappy, because I had promised to do it together with her. At the moment, the idea of divorce became clearer in my mind although it used to be something impossible to me.
However, I found it rather difficult to tell my wife about it. No matter how mildly I mentioned it to her, she would be deeply hurt.
Honestly, she was a good wife. Every evening she was busy preparing dinner. I was sitting in front of the TV. The dinner was ready soon. Then we watched TV together. Or, I was lounging before the computer, visualizing Dew’s body. This was the means of my entertainment.
One day I said to her in a slightly joking way, suppose we divorce, what will you do? She stared at me for a few seconds without a word. Apparently she believed that divorce was something too far away from her. I couldn’t imagine how she would react once she got to know I was serious.
When my wife went to my office, Dew had just stepped out. Almost all the staff looked at my wife with a sympathetic eye and tried to hide something while talking to her. She seemed to have got some hint. She gently smiled at my subordinates. But I read some hurt in her eyes.
Once again, Dew said to me, He Ning, divorce her, O.K.? Then we live together. I nodded. I knew I could not hesitate any more.
When my wife served the last dish, I held her hand. I’ve got something to tell you, I said. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the serious topic calmly.
She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I’m serious. I avoided her question. This so-called answer made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!
That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer, because my heart had gone to Dew.
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. I felt a pain in my heart. The woman who had been living ten years with me would become a stranger one day. But I could not take back what I had said.
Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer.
Late that night, I came back home after entertaining my clients. I saw her writing something at the table. I fall asleep fast. When I woke up, I found she was still there. I turned over and was asleep again.
She brought up her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but I was supposed to give her one month s time before divorce, and in the month’s time we must live as normal a life as possible. Her reason was simple: our son would finish his summer vacation a month later and she didn’t want him to see our marriage was broken.
She passed me the agreement she drafted, and then asked me, He Ning, do you still remember how I entered our bridal room on the wedding day? This question suddenly brought back all those wonderful memories to me. I nodded and said, I remember. You carried me in your arms, she continued, so, I have a requirement, that is, you carry me out in your arms on the day when we divorce. From now to the end of this month, you must carry me out from the bedroom to the door every morning. I accepted with a smile. I knew she missed those sweet days and wished to end her marriage romantically.
I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she does, she has to face the result of divorce, she said scornfully. Her words more or less made me feel uncomfortable.
My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. We even treated each other as a stranger. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms.
His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly, Let us start from today, don’t tell our son. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for a bus, I drove to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. We were so close that I could smell the fragrance of her blouse.
I realized that I hadn’t looked at this intimate woman carefully for a long time. I found she was not young any more. There were some fine wrinkles on her face.
On the third day, she whispered to me, the outside garden is being demolished. Be careful when you pass there.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I seemed to feel that we were still an intimate couple and I was holding my sweetheart in my arms. The visualization of Dew became vague.
On the fifth and sixth day, she kept reminding me something, such as, where she put the ironed shirts, I should be careful while cooking, etc. I nodded. The sense of intimacy was even stronger. I didn’t tell Dew about this.
I felt it was easier to carry her. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. I said to her, It seems not difficult to carry you now. She was picking her dresses. I was waiting to carry her out. She tried quite a few but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I smiled. But I suddenly realized that it was because she was thinner that I could carry her more easily, not because I was stronger. I knew she had buried all the bitterness in her heart. Again, I felt a sense of pain. Subconsciously I reached out a hand to touch her head.
Our son came in at the moment. Dad, it’s time to carry mum out. He said. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had been an essential part of his life. She gestured our son to come closer and hugged him tightly.
I turned my face because I was afraid I would change my mind at the last minute. I held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly, as if we came back to our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad.
On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step.
Our son had gone to school. She said, actually I hope you will hold me in your arms until we are old.
I held her tightly and said, both you and I didn’t notice that our life lacked intimacy.
I jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my decision. I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door. I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I won’t divorce. I’m serious.
She looked at me, astonished. The she touched my forehead. You got no fever. She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I can only say sorry to you, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of life, not because we didn’t love each other any more. Now I understand that since I carried her into the home, she gave birth to our child, I am supposed to hold her until I am old. So I have to say sorry to you.
Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove to the office.
When I passed the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet for my wife which was her favorite. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until we are old”.
That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in bed – DEAD. She had been fighting Cancer for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce. At least, in the eyes of our son… I’m a loving husband…
Let’s get the super important stuff out on the table first.
You might be wondering – you think that u have been good enough but why you will never be able to get every person you ever come in touch with to like you? "If I am a good, kind, positive and giving person – why wouldn’t everyone like me? Why wouldn’t they see the beauty in me?"
Well…there’s lots of reasons and most of them you will need to come to peace with never actually knowing.
We just cannot know why – unless of course we chase for the answer. But conversations that have a beginning in ‘Why don’t you like me?’ or ‘Why won’t you respond to me?’ so often, I find, don’t have a happy ending.
So what’s the answer when we truly believe we are worth someone connecting with us, liking us, loving us – and it just doesn’t happen?
Move on.
Don’t contort, manipulate, stretch and turn yourself inside out. Don’t turn on yourself and think there must be something ‘wrong’ with you. Don’t waste any of your precious time and life on something you can’t control.
Yes. Control.
Because while we all may want someone’s approval, or friendship, or respect, or love – we genuinely have no control over whether or not someone chooses to give it to us. It’s a choice. Their choice. Someone else’s choice. It’s never our choice. Our decision to make. Our love to give.
All you, we and me can do is be our truest and most good,best and genuine self. The people who are then meant to come to us and be with us and like us will be. Those who are not will not.
Focus all your love and attention on those people who are your people. Those who easily flow and connect with you and everything you are. Those with whom you can utterly be yourself – all the time.
Let go of those people who are not your people. i mean,those for whatever reason, entirely out of your control, who move towards others. Let them go with love.
And know that more beautiful and amazing people are out there waiting for you to show up into their lives. Always.
There’s always more love for innerly beautiful and amazing people like you.
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janganlah kamu terlalu idamkan dia sepertimana ciri2 idamanmu dan mengharapkan dia mampu mengabulkan mimpi-mimpi indahmu.
jadilah seorang insan yang tidak mengharapkan kesempurnaan tetapi tanamlah dalam diri kamu sendiri keinginan untuk menjadi yang terbaik buat pasanganmu itu.
janganlah kamu kecewa jika dia hanya gadis biasa yang tidak semahal kamu impikan kerana kekurangan atau perbuatan mase lalunya mahupun kininya.
ingatlah,tanggungjawab dan amanah yang sepatutnya kamu pegang dan sedari sbagai lelaki yang memegang amanah untuk menjaga dia yang berjanji untuk menjadi tulang belakangmu nanti
biarpun dia tidak dapat mewujudkan mimpi-mimpi indahmu,janganlah kamu bersedih kerana sungguh aku tahu bukan niatnya untuk membuatmu hampa. dia hanya gadis biasa yang banyak berbuat silap dan mengharapkanmu untuk membimbingnya dan memberinya kekuatan.
jika benar kamu seorang pemimpin,berusahalah mencantikkan apa yang masih kurang.
sabarlah dgn amanahmu yg besar lagi berat,wahai pria bakal pemimpin ummah.
kerana sungguh jihad itu pedih lagi menyakitkan.
namun inshaAllah,pengakhirannya manis jika kamu berdua tahu tanggungjawab dan impian sebenar.
oleh itu,janganlah kecantikan paras dan akhlak yang kamu terlalu harapkan.
kerana sejujurnya dia takut dgn harapan tinggimu terhadapnya kerana dia tahu dia sebenarnye penuh dengan cacat cela.
pernahkah kamu sedar akan hatinya yang resah memikirkan bahawa mampukah dia menjadi yang terbaik untukmu dan bagaimana penerimaanmu terhadap segala kekurangannya
tiada henti dia berdoa agar Allah memberinye kekuatan dan memberimu kesabaran agar dia mampu menjadi yang lebih baik untukmu sehari demi sehari kerana dia tidak mahu melihatmu sedih malah mengharapkan suatu hari nnt kamu bahagia dan bangga mempunyai insan sepertinya sebagai peneman hidupmu.
apa yang dia harapkan ialah kepimpinan dan kasih sayangmu dlm membimbingnya dan keluarga dgn lembut dan buktikanlah bahawa kamu mampu menjadikan pasanganmu itu seorang insan yang cukup mahal dan indah setelah dia menjadi milikmu.
jadikanlah dia wanita yang dicemburui oleh bidadari-bidadari lain di Syurga nanti kerana keberkesananmu memimpinnya setelah dia bergelar milikmu.
inilah isi hati sebenar mana2 gadis yang namanya telah tercatat di Luh Mahfuz untukmu. sungguh diri kami bersembunyikan 1001 kekurangan dan kelemahan.bukan kesempurnaanmu yang kami harapkan darimu. kami tahu dirimu juga penuh kekurangan. cukuplah kamu cuba mnjadi pemimpin yg baik buat kami dan keluarga yang tahu tanggungjawab dan cuba menggalasnya dgn sebaik mungkin. kita dua hati yang berbeza. kami juga berharap dpt mnjd yg trbaik utkmu. namun jgnlh mimpi-mimpimu memberi beban yg tidak tertanggung kepada kami. jadilah kekuatan kami dan buktikanlah kepimpinan dan cintamu dalam pada kita sama2 mengejar cintaNya dn mencipta kebahagiaan di dunia dan di akhirat sane,inshaAllah ameen.
assalamualaikum
heh da lebih stengah tahun xbebel kt sini. ade je ase nk nulis tp malas nk naip. jadi simpan lam otak jela heh.
so now,meh nk bebel skali. cuti ni ade a mase nk luang kt blog ni hah. start skolah nnt malas layan balik. hoho. nasib a dpt tuan kurg penyayang cani ye blog ye :). n mama pon da cakap nak hadkan penggunaan. hari minggu xleh gune. yes! syakirah kne disiplinkan diri balik! padan muke :P k dah,benti bebel. let's begin the story! org len pindah sekolah xde cite pape kan? haa meh sini nak cite!
>8/2/2012<
from a shamsians to an imtiazians
from 4 ar-razi to 4 ibnu kathir
from kuala terengganu to kuala berang
from bandor to ulu
from wearing a blue long skirt into a red one (k tipu. mase tu xbli pon agi kain baru. hiihi)
yes,i had transferred to a new school,imtiaz kuala berang :)
actually mase g temuduge tu x expect pon dpt sini. first choice besut coz my sis ade kat sane. second kospint coz paling dkt n ade abg ipar kt sane. third,dungun(ni pon kalau dh xdpt due tuh). siyes langsung xexpect dpt qber.
at first,mase sampai skul tu of coursela tgok skeliling kan. mmg trkejut gile. "eh mane bangunannye? xkan sutey ni je?" then mama told me,"mmg ni satu pon bangunan pendidikannye" n i was like.."0_0 hah?????????!!!!!!!!". "student skolah ni kan sikit je". "ow..=_= ok".
die panggil 10 org budak baru,tp yg masuk hari tu 5 org je. me,hayani,afiq,azizol n aidil. lega la jgk bile ade kwn kan yani kan? :)
ok,kite pendekkan cite. rasa risau tambah perasaan xtentu datang bile yani seems like nk kuar sgt dr imtiaz nih. die buat solat istikharah,die nmpk KAKA. mase tu mmg da start ase xsedap hati. gile xsedap a. she often called her mom. ummi(pengetua shams) pon bg sy tempoh 2minggu utk suaikan diri kt situ,kalau xnk boleh balik sane balik. tp ntah,hati ase nk kuat stay kt situ lg. one day,azizol hilang tibe2. ok,cm xlogik je ayat hilang tu =_=". azizol pindah mengejut. heish bdk nih. sukati die je lari balik g pahang =_=" afiq yg rapat ngan azizol pon cm moody je hari tu. taw2 ptg tu die plk pindah balik ke sma durian guling. n the next day,hati yg xtenang jadi perit giler. bile taw yani plak dpt pindah. mase tu ase malap a. sedih a sape xderai air mate the only friend u had at that time pegi kan. prasaan nk pindah balik ke tidak pon campor baur. mama n papa datang ptg tu tanye cane kputusan. tinggal esok sari je. mama pujuk balik. but my last answer is...i wanna stay.
bermula saat tu mmg i hope for a no turning back la. bermula dari situ jugak bermula la hidup as an imtiazian yg betol2 la. ye,ini bukan main2 lagi tahu. haih kalu nk dicitekan mahu 10 pages blog nih pon xtamat-tamat lagi hah. meh nk cite sikit2. *sikit pn panjang jugak T_T. papepon,thanks buat guru2 yg bagi sy pluang masuk pertandingan forum,pantun. owh lupe, mase duk sini sya jd bomba! :D hohoho ^.^ mengabulkan impian mase kecik :') *gile panas uniform die T__T. hah ape lagi ek,erkk...xingat. hihi. jadi utk memendekkan lg,kite buat ucapan penghargaan jelah ye. hoho ^.^
>usrah aflah hasanah<
saye sayang usrah ni ^_^ actually sampai skrg ase bersalah cos sbenarnye mmg ase diri ni xlayak nk pimpin adik2. diri sendiri pon tah hape2. dear adik2 usrahku,maaf kalau akak ade tersilap bicare ke ape ke k :) betol diri akak ni pon sangattttla xsempurne. tgok fb pon tahu hah. n i'm very asshame of myself T__T akak harap korang jadikanlh diri korang insan yg lebih baik. jadilah contoh yg terbaik buat adik2 korg nnt n generasi akan datang *ecewah ayat. hoho. ehem siyes2. hehe. n n n......akak saaaaaayang korang! thanks for the happiness strength you had given me n everything la. korg mmg terbaekkkk! :D jgn brubah ye dik :) n utk rakan2 usrah,even though kite xlame n xbyk aktiviti kite sempat buat,tp rase syg sy kt usrah ni mmg kuat. ntah la knape,hihi. n time kasih atas ukhuwah nih,ainun,hanan,nasyitah,ain,afiqah n lain2. i appreciate it so much. btol. xtipu pon :') teruskan perjuangan korg. biarla kite xmampu pupuk sekuat yg diharapkan asalkan kita cuba. jangan sampai semua ni padam. jadilah teladan buat yg melihat. korg la antare harapan utk mantapkan lagi bi'ah Islam kt skolah tu. don't ever give up. biarla ape org len nk kate,org buat xendah,pegang kuat niat tarbiyah. ingat,sesungguhnya perjuangan itu jihad! :)
>KAMAR UMMI AIMAN<
my second home. haha. byk memori kt sini. dah mmg sehari-hari duk lam tu kan. n also my first dorm ever! sbelom nih den x pornah2 pon duk asrama jang oii. i shared a bed with aini :P die gedik. die ngade. die manje. die menyakitkan hati. die kedekut gile. tapi die baik ^_^ n sy syg die*kot. ngeh3. sbelom pegi tu sy ade acah die pasal sy ade nmpk bdk baru dah mai dh kt pejabat. form2 dr imtiaz kemaman xsilap. so sy ckp la "hehe nnt dpt bdk baru atas katil ^_^ padan muke wekkk! :P" n die pon berkate "uhh xboh. xboh wi. duk a kat lain. dokdak a ade org len bla3" n i was like..oww da slame ni ambe ni kire penyebok laa? kuang asams punye budak! =_=" okk,kitorg mmg suke gurau. die form 2 but she's even matured than me. aini tua! :P kui3 ^.^ mase malam rabu seblom sy pindah,adela makan2 roti canai ramai2 banat form4 lam dorm ni hah. roti canai piqah. emg tersedakkk a! eh skill baru? hehe. thanks a lot sume ^_^. owh,kamar ini dikongsi oleh bdk form 4 and form2 *heh mcm org len xtaw. den sobonarnyo xdo ideodah nak nulih ni haa. dah nak doket pukol tigo pagi dah eyh. adoiii. sambung besok. tata!
>to Aliah n Ezaty<
olla! gud monink! ^_^ meh nk sambung cite. this one i dedicate to this two girls. they are new too. aliah dr imtiaz besut,ezaty dr imtiaz kemaman. emm sy harap awk due kuat. be strong. sy faham perasaan awk tu. n maybe awk lg perit lg kot. sbb bkn ur desire pon nk pindah skul baru kan. sy tahu rindu kt skolah n kwn2 lame mmg menghantui. lg2 bile sad moments datang kan. i know how hard it is to face the fact that there are some persons who can never accept us. sape xmiss happiness yg kite achieve kt skola lame kan. yg mungkin kite xkan dpt da kt cni sampai bile2. byk agi tapi org xfaham. mungkin bukan fakta pindah tu yg buat kite sakit. tp fakta lain yg hanye kite sorg je tahu sakitnye. i had seen both of u cry,i also had heard ur both's stories. i wish i could help but i know i cant,i'm so sorry. hanye awk yg boleh tolong diri awk. n to aliah,be strong dear! sy respek gile kt awk sbb awk kuat. tp manusie ade limit die. ramai org xnmpk kebaikan awk n mcm mane awk nk sgt suit dgn org sini. satu je sy bleh cakap,bersabarlah selagi mampu :') Allah tahu kesedihan yg hambaNya lalui and remember,innAllahama'assobirin :)
>bieeeeee~! :D<
hah amek. i buat yg small size punye,you~ hoho. thanks for everything dear :') bie kwn bru sy yg kedue selepas yani. she treat me nicely n give me a very warm welcome. diela antare yg terawal tego kitorg kot. kitorg pon jd senang nk talk2 ngan die. lps yani pindah pon diela yg byk care pasal sy. prnh tu kitorg kacip pergi sane,sini same. hoho. bie slalu kongsi cite ngan sy,sy pon kongsi gak cite sy ngan bie yg mne mostly sad stories. olololo. she's a very nice n preety girl :) bie jgk bg byk pluang kt sy utk masuk ini itu n mcm2 la. hehe thanks syg ^_^ i will never forget all that. u have become apart of my life :D u give me the sweetness of friendship n a lot more,dear buddies!
>afiqah! :D<
mase akhir2 tu sy jd rapat dgn afiqah jgk :D ai punye lame duk katil sbelah,lately baru nk rapat? ai x ke pelik tuh. heh biarla. best kwn ngan die. hihi. actually...sya jeles ngan die T_T. eh jeles? ha'a jeles lah. but in a good way ok :P sy jeles sbb tgok keperibadian die. mmg tabik springgg a! die byk sedarkan sy,ajar sy muhasabah diri,kuatkan diri,kuatkan iman n paling sy xleyh lupe,die ajar sy utk...jage hati. mmg ade ase nak nangis je time ckp ngan die mase tu. heh mmg da berkace da pon mate T.T. die sedarkan sya baik,buruk ape yg sya cite kat die n bla3. heh mane boleh cakap pasal ape. rahsieeee..ngeee~ thanks a lot piqah! byk awk ajar n sedarkan sy kan :') which makes me loves u so damn much! <3 ^_^
>zahirah <3 <
that cute spectacled girl is my deskmate ^_^. die terror add math dgn bahase arab wooo!! die baaaaik sangat! :D zahirah ni die sgt sweet la i think. die sorg yg lebih mementingkan org lain dr diri sendiri. very good a this girl. die xsuke sakitkan hati org wlpn kdg2 die sndiri yg sakit. die jgk sgt suke tolong org lain n bla3. sape dpt die mmg a very lucky one a. meh nk ucap tahniah awal2. huhu. n n n die ketua baru dorm ummi aiman!! :D haha >_< mmg die je pon yg layak nk ganti banding kitorg yg len. erkkk...hehe. harap awk dpt galas tugas ni sebaik mungkin,z :) haa! die seorg yg suke mendengar. die mmg a very good listener. die suke selesaikan masalah org tp masalah sendiri die lebih suke pendam. haiyaaaa =_=" papepon z,thanks sbb byk tolong sy,byk layan kerenah saye n lain2. u're such a really nice person! :') syg awk jgk ^_^. n thanks for the gift you had given me and not forgotten the tazkirah too <3
>24/3/12<
after 3 months and a half,i'd decided to go. the reason? xde yg taw sbb tepat kan? xpela,bia sy sorg je tahu :) actually takot jgk sbb menyusahkan mak,ayah. mmg menyusahkan sgt la. so yg len,jgn ikot. duk situ diam2! :P hoho. thanks atas segale-galenye n sorry if ade salah silap. manusia xde yg sempurne kan? to all those yg ade buat silap pon sy dh maafkan. sy xsuke simpan dendam. i even have forgot what have u done.
malas nk take serious pon so salah silap sesape so salah silap sy jgn la amek sampai ke hati k. sorry jugak kala sy nampak mcm sombong ke hape ke. maybe muke sy mcm tu kot. tp sy actually sy xsombong pon sy rase. ke sombong? ade la ikit kot. buat2 sombong je tu. hehe. don't worry,tego je kt fb tu hah. saye ok :) n thanks jugak buat sume yg give me a lot of memory same ade sedar atau x n sengaje atau x,yg buat sy hepi,gembire*eh xke same tu? hehe pape jela. owh sorry kalau sy xmention ur name here. haih ramai benor la kalau nk sebot sorg2nye =_="
so fine,setiap pertemuan tu ade suke duke gembire dan sakit die. n setiap pertemuan tu jgk pasti ade perpisahan. so,that day tamatlah riwayatku as an imtiazian. sy syg skolah tu. skolah tu byk ajar sy. byk yg sampai sy sendiri pon xsedar. lpn sy sekejap je kat sini,sy xkan lupekan skolah tu sampai bile2 n kwn2 kt situ jgk :) skali lagi,tuk semue yg terlibat secare langsong atau tidak lam hidup sy kat situ,sy ucapkan,tenkiu!!! ^_^
hey! take this song! :D *xtaw da bg lagu ape. amek jela heh :)
jadi utk mengakhiri post kali ni,let me share here tazkirah yg zahirah bg :)
dirimu terhias sebaik-baik ciptaan
maka jadikanlah dirimu nisa' yg boleh mnjd mujahidah jihad di jalan Allah
tadikanlah dirimu antara fatayat yg dijulang
cantik dipandang tp susah utk dipegang
jadikanlah dirimu gadis manis yg xprnah kalah dgn redup panahan mata Adam
biar nafsumu hidup dlm tarbiyah di jalan dakwah
bertinta darah dan air mata perjuangan
dititip atas warkah penuh kemuliaan
dan dikirimkan utk mujahidah menuju Tuhanmu
nice one,right? :') thanks a lot dear zahirah<3 ^_^
assalamaualaikum wbt
dikale otak kosong xtaw nk tulis pe
datangla sorg semek bername fatin mengetag I di blognye. weeee~~~ ^_^
n n n she's one of my bestfriends :)
n n n she's a fanatic kpop lover! woaaaa!!! :D
n n n i love her! ^_^ haha.
kamsahamnida unnie! ;) (bajet pandai ckp korea)
so now,on your mark,get set,go! :D
1.how do u express ur own feelings? through ur action? writing or talking?
-semua!! :D tapi action tu kurang skit. hihi. talking? share dgn kawan la kan :) tak pon ckp straight to the point dgn org tu. writing? i do have a diary tp....da mcm buku conteng dah =_=" hehe. tp bile rase nak luah sgt10000,mmg diary la tempatnye. tulis sampai nangis. pastu lege sikit. lame2 lupekan. huhu. kt blog xleh. private :P
2.singing or dancing or poeing? y?
-singing n poeing :) howaaa syakirah pandai buat poems wehhh!!! ape? ingat hang sorg ja boleh? poooodah! wekkk :P haha
3.who are ur closer siblings? big bro or lil bro? big sis or lil sis?
-erkk i only have a big bro n big sisS =_=" so big sisS la(xleh pilih) ^_^ huhu~
4-do u prefer to work alone or in a group? y?
-alone :) because i can give full attention to what i'm working for like study. but i also prefer to work in a group when it comes to something like competition or a group test :)
5-what kind of person r u?
-erm...erm...erm...someone who will react differently to different people haha ^_^
6-what's the most important gadget in human's life n y?
-emm...handphone? erkk teehihi...kenapela soalan mcm ni ditanyekn kpd insan yg jakun seperti diriku ini? T______T sobs.
7-when u r bored,sad or angry,what would you do to erase them?
-bored? buat jela pape pon. haha. sad or angry? kalau boleh luah,luah la. kalau x,buat dono je. haha. i don't wanna stuck at a time thinking about all those dramas. drpd duk bersakit mental pikir hal tu tanpe dpt ape2 pun cume kesedihan,takde faedah kot. actually perkara mcm tu byk mengajar kite sebenarnye. bagitaw diri utk tak mengulangi kesalahan yg sama lagi n berazam utk mnjd yg lebih baik pd mase akan datang. we learn from what we have gone through kan? :)
8-what characters that you adore about him to make him yours forever?(ideal man)
-jap2...kahkahkahkahkah!!! haha k,dah2..huu~ ^_^ emm Iman,leadership n craziness :D haha.accept each other's unperfections because we have each other to make them perfect :) eh jap...oit!! org baru 15 lah!!! =_="
9-if u're giving a chance to do something freely,what would u do?
-agagagaga...travelling all around the world with my friends!! :D weeeee~ dak r,dak r ^_^ *bajet kaye mcm bill gates =_="*
10-craziest experience that u will never forget.
-craziest experience? none :)
11-u prefer wooden house or conchrete one? n y?
-conchrete house. emm..for saftey n comfort? i think :)
ok siap tag dr fatin. thank you so much for the tag,dear :) saranghaeyo~ ^_^
assalamualaikum wbt.
couple dan cinta. dua perkara yg jauh berbeza :)
Wednesday, November 30, 2011 | 9:50 AM | 0 comments
assalamualaikum wbt :)
hari ni syakirah akan buat 3 criter! ^_^ wahhhh 3 criter? bestnyer!!! :D (kesiannn puji diri sendiri T__T)
tapi ini bukan novel cinta :)
tapi asal ade kait gak ngan cinta? =,=
yelah,tapi ini bukan crite NOVEL
bkn angan2 indah atau tragis atau romantik atau melankolik bla3 seorang penulis novel
ade faham? :D
xfaham sudah! =,= haha
ok tapi yg first ni not from me. yg ni a post yg dishare di facebook by a popular writer,novelist and motivator HILAL ASYRAf
thumbs up! :') up,up and away~~~ haha
Couple=cinta? Saya kata tidak.
Bicara cinta kita kali ini. Sebab baru timbul di Official Page saya soalan berkenaan ‘apakah ada couple sebelum berkahwin?’. Saya jawab lah tak ada. Kemudian dia tanya ‘apakah ada cinta sebelum berkahwin?’. Saya kata ada. Dia pelik. “Macam mana bercinta tapi tak bercouple?”
Saya pula naik hairan. Cinta dengan couple tu, sama ke? Nak bercinta, wajib couple ke? Kiranya, kalau tak couple tu, tandanya tak ada cinta la? Begitu kah?
Patutlah bila saya kata bercinta sebelum kahwin boleh, orang ramai marah sebab dia kata: “No cinta b4 nikah” la, “Cinta sebelum nikah haram” la dan sebagainya. Sebab apa? Dia nampak cinta=couple dan sewaktu dengannya.
Saya nampak couple tu jauh letaknya di barat, dan cinta tu letaknya jauh di bahagian timur. Dua benda yang berlainan. Cinta boleh dijalankan tanpa couple. Couple pun, kalau orang nak, boleh jalan tanpa cinta.
Apa itu cinta
Saya tak ambil definisi cinta ini dari kamus dewan bahasa atau mana-mana sumber. Saya bina definisi cinta saya sendiri, dari kefahaman dan padangaan yang saya perhatikan selama ini.
Definisi cinta saya mudah. Apa itu cinta? Cinta adalah apabila kita hendak masuk syurga bersama-sama dengan orang yang kita kata pada dia – Saya cintakan awak. Benda ni boleh apply dengan semua jenis orang. Kekasih kah, isteri kah, anak-anak kah, ibu-bapa kah, adik-beradik kah, sahabat handai, saudara mara, jiran tetangga, dan sebagainya. Semua la pendek kata.
Jadi, kalau kita melakukan sesuatu yang mengeluarkan kita dari jalan ke syurga Allah SWT, itu tandanya telah hilang cinta kita kepada orang yang kita kata - saya cintakan awak.
Cinta, terkandung di dalamnya makna sayang dan kasih. Jadi saya tidak nampak seseorang yang melempar seseorang yang lain ke dalam api, atau bawa orang lain terjun ke gaung bersama dengannya itu, adalah seorang Pencinta, seorang Penyayang atau seorag Pengasih.
Jadi, kalau couple itu dilarang oleh Allah SWT, zina hati itu dilarang oleh Allah SWT, dan kosnya adalah kemurkaan Allah SWT, boleh mengheret ke neraka Allah SWT, apakah si pengajak kepada perlakuan itu, atau si pelaku kepada perlakuan itu, dinamakan saling kasih mengasihi, sayang menyayangi dan cinta mencintai?
Lempar ke dalam api dikatakan sayang? Ah... kalau anda berpendapat demikian, tak mengapalah.
Yang saya kata bercinta sebelum kahwin
Cinta itu perasaan. Kita sebenarnya tidak tahu bagaimana cinta itu boleh muncul. Lain orang lain cara kemunculannya. Ada yang terjumpa sekali dah ‘tercinta’. Ada yang sebab kerja sama-sama, ‘tercinta’. Ada yang sebab dengar dari kawan-kawan si fulan/si fulanah itu baik, maka ‘jatuh cinta’ dan sebagainya.
Pendek kata, jatuh cinta ini bukan boleh kawal. Jadi, macam mana kita boleh letakkan hukum haram kepada sesuatu yang bersifat ‘auto’? Atau bahasanya yang sebenar adalah ‘fitrah’.
Islam haramkan seks kah? Tidak. Sebab? Sebab seks adalah fitrah.
Islam haramkan kita makan dan minumkah? Tidak. Sebab? Sebab makan minum adalah fitrah.
Tetapi apa yang Islam buat? Yang Islam buat adalah Islam lorongkan semua benda itu. Seks adalah dengan perkahwinan. Makan minum adalah makan minum yang halal.
Cinta? Saya tidak pernah dengar lagi dalam nas Al-Quran atau Hadith sohih yang menyatakan perasaan cinta itu perlu ada hanya sebelum kahwin. Kalau ada, sila tunjuk pada saya. Saya mahu belajar.
Maka apa yang saya maksudkan dengan ‘bercinta sebelum kahwin’ adalah, usaha-usaha kita untuk berkahwin dengan seseorang itu, itu adalah namanya ‘cinta sebelum kahwin’. Saya bukan kata email, sms, call, dating, couple, itu adalah ‘bercinta sebelum kahwin’. Tidak dan tidak sama sekali.
Tetapi, kita kembali kepada definisi cinta yang saya nyatakan.
Hendak masuk syurga bersamanya.
Maka, bercinta sebelum berkahwin dengannya adalah dengan kita mempertingkatkan diri sebelum menerjah ke alam perkahwinan. Itu bercintalah.
Apakah dengan itu ‘haram berhubung langsung’?
Tidak. Bila sudah bertunang, sudah mendapat pengiktirafan ibu bapa, maka berhubunglah dengan sepatutnya. Ta’aruf. Ziarah. Bincang fasal perkahwinan. Merancang. Dan sebagainya. Dan semestinya semua itu, perlu kepada pemerhatian keluarga atau penjaga. Sebab itu, digalakkan waktu pertunangan itu pendek-pendek sahaja, agar tidak berpanjangan pula perkara-perkara yang diberikan kelonggaran ini, dan tidak terlalu teruji pula perhubungan tersebut. ^^
Untuk saya, itulah namanya ‘bercinta sebelum berkahwin’.
Siapa kata tiada? ^^
Mazhab Tawakkal Buta Dalam Cinta.
“Kalau kita sukakan seseorang, jangan beritahu si dia. Nanti Allah kurangkan rasa cinta padanya. Tapi luahkan pada Allah, beritahulah Allah. Allah maha tahu jodoh kita siapa.”
Pernah dengar ayat macam ini?
Ini saya namakan sebagai Mazhab Tawakkal Buta Dalam Cinta.
Kenapa saya namakan tawakkal buta? Sebab saya tahu Allah pun tak ajar demikian rupa. ^^
Kalau suka, patutnya bagitahulah(semestinya dengan persediaan. Bukan main bagitahu sahaja. Tengoklah diri tu juga. Kalau main bagitahu sahaja, itu dah masuk dalam bab Cinta Buta). Kemudian, siapa la pandai-pandai ajar kalau bagitahu nanti Allah kurangkan rasa cinta padanya ni?
Baiklah. Saya bagi contoh buka laci. Macam mana anda mahu buka laci? Anda berdoa sahaja, atau anda usaha buka laci sambil tawakkal bahawa Allahlah yang bantu anda buka laci itu?
Satu lagi. Exam. Macam mana kita mahu cemerlang dalam exam? Berdoa sahaja, luahkan pada Allah bahawa kita tak pandai sahaja, atau kita kena belajar sungguh-sungguh, dan masa exam kena gerakkan otak dan pen untuk jawab exam? Mana satu?
USAHA.
Usaha kena ada. Itu sunnatullah. Maka bagaimana di dalam CINTA kita boleh kata:
“Kalau kita sukakan seseorang, jangan beritahu si dia. Nanti Allah kurangkan rasa cinta padanya. Tapi luahkan pada Allah, beritahulah Allah. Allah maha tahu jodoh kita siapa.”??????
Kalau macam itu, saya pun boleh kata, janganlah study. Doa sahaja pada Allah. Allah Maha Tahu Kita Cemerlang Atau Tidak. Bagaimana? Suka?
Jadi janganlah ambil Mazhab Tawakkal Buta ini. Baik dalam exam, mahupun dalam BERCINTA.
Kalau suka, bincanglah dengan ibu bapa. Cakap kat ibu bapa, saya suka si fulan, saya suka si fulanah. Preparekanlah diri. Buatlah background check. Kemudian muhasabah kembali ibadah. Kemudian kalau berkeyakinan, sila masuk melamar. Merisik. Dan sebagainya.
At least kita pun tahu kalau dia tak suka kita, tak berkenan dengan kita. Boleh cari yang lain.
Kalau pendam sahaja buat apa?
Silap hari bulan dia suka kat kita, sebab main pendam, terlepas.
Silap hari bulan dia tak suka kat kita, sebab main pendam, tup-tup dah lama sangat pendam perasaan, syok sangat-sangat, sekali kena tolak. Kecewa. Bertahun dah bazirkan hidup suka dia.
Sebab itu, usaha itu kena ada. Langkah itu perlu diambil.
Tawakkal Buta?
Jangan sekali.
Penutup: Terang lagi bersuluh, couple dengan cinta tak sama
Saya sentiasa kata pada diri saya, cinta itu mahal, suci, bersih. Jadi, takkan saya nak nodai dengan perkara-perkara yang mengotorkannya(kemurkaan Allah)? Di situ sahaja kita sudah boleh buat garisan membezakan cinta dan couple.
Jadi, tak ada masalah ya kalau bercinta tanpa couple. Masih cinta. Bersih pula.
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