Let’s get the super important stuff out on the table first.
You might be wondering – you think that u have been good enough but why you will never be able to get every person you ever come in touch with to like you? "If I am a good, kind, positive and giving person – why wouldn’t everyone like me? Why wouldn’t they see the beauty in me?"
Well…there’s lots of reasons and most of them you will need to come to peace with never actually knowing.
We just cannot know why – unless of course we chase for the answer. But conversations that have a beginning in ‘Why don’t you like me?’ or ‘Why won’t you respond to me?’ so often, I find, don’t have a happy ending.
So what’s the answer when we truly believe we are worth someone connecting with us, liking us, loving us – and it just doesn’t happen?
Move on.
Don’t contort, manipulate, stretch and turn yourself inside out. Don’t turn on yourself and think there must be something ‘wrong’ with you. Don’t waste any of your precious time and life on something you can’t control.
Yes. Control.
Because while we all may want someone’s approval, or friendship, or respect, or love – we genuinely have no control over whether or not someone chooses to give it to us. It’s a choice. Their choice. Someone else’s choice. It’s never our choice. Our decision to make. Our love to give.
All you, we and me can do is be our truest and most good,best and genuine self. The people who are then meant to come to us and be with us and like us will be. Those who are not will not.
Focus all your love and attention on those people who are your people. Those who easily flow and connect with you and everything you are. Those with whom you can utterly be yourself – all the time.
Let go of those people who are not your people. i mean,those for whatever reason, entirely out of your control, who move towards others. Let them go with love.
And know that more beautiful and amazing people are out there waiting for you to show up into their lives. Always.
There’s always more love for innerly beautiful and amazing people like you.